Love has no Future
Two lovers meet. She says to him, “Are you the perfect partner for me? Can I trust that you will love me tomorrow and not betray me, or leave me?”
“My love,” he says, “I cannot know the future. That is how I am like you. Since I treasure you I cannot tell you something I cannot know, a story about a future that I can only make up. This would not honor you.
“But I can tell you that you are my partner now, at this minute. You are my Beloved. That I can celebrate with you. In this moment I love you with all my heart – and I trust myself in that love. I am true to that love.
“Because I love myself, I know that I will not do anything to hurt me. To hurt or betray you would hurt me. I will not do that to me. We can both be safe in that knowing.”
This is the voice of truth and of skillful relating.
The mind is in confusion. It thinks, “I can only feel safe in loving now if I can be sure about the future. But since I don’t know the future, I cannot dare to open myself and trust this love” – therefore the mind is fearful and stays on guard. It does not love fully. It does not open up.
When the mind is closed, the heart will be closed. That is inevitable. The closed, fearful mind dares not to surrender itself to love, and so the possibility of a deeply loving relationship cannot fulfill itself.
This is how many couples do not experience the full potential of their relationship, and the amazing possibilities of the heart.
The future does not exist the way we think of it. We never get to a future. We never arrive at a point called ‘the future’. No one has ever experienced it.
The future is only a thought, a story we tell. It is unreal, a figment of the imagination, which becomes a nightmare when we project our fears into it.
We miss the Now because of the scary story about a future we make up in our minds.
The future is now, it is created in every moment.
The lover continues, “My beloved, the reality of our love is now.
“This is where I meet you, open, undefended, without expectations.
“It is the only way we can meet, the only way lovers, or any two people, have ever met.
“So our relationship, my dear, has no future.
“It is either now, in this moment, or not at all.
“Our hearts can be open to each other only now.
“We cannot love each other in the future, only now.
“I love you now.
“That is enough.
“That is everything to me.
“That is where I want to meet you.”
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Feb 02, 2010
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Feb 07, 2010
Wonderful! Thanks!
Feb 20, 2010
Great to have you along, Ezra
Soon I will be posting more
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Ram Giri
Feb 20, 2010
Thanks Lizzie; I’ll have my webmaster look into this
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Ram Giri
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Feb 20, 2010
Thanks Merlin!
Feb 20, 2010
Thanks Alvin, please stay in touch.
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Ram Giri
Feb 21, 2010
I only seem to be able to read half of the article. Is it my browser or the site?
Feb 28, 2010
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Mar 10, 2010
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Mar 11, 2010
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Mar 11, 2010
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Mar 24, 2010
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Apr 08, 2010
Thanks Lorine
Apr 09, 2010
The Spanish translation is planned but will take some time. Thanks for your interest. Sorry I can’t be more helpful right now. If you have any questions, please email or call directly. We have Spanish speaking staff.
Apr 15, 2010
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Apr 28, 2010
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May 07, 2010
Hello all. Great site and content. I loved it. I was wondering if there would be a way for a relationship to be better without interfering each other with silly questions to fill in time but just stick with our side of responsibility and hold it there and be in cahrge of our part 100%? If my boyfriend sleeps on the couch in front of a TV, the only thing I should do is to grab a blanket and cover him. NOT telling him “wake up. Come and sleep in our bed”. Talk and help only when you’re asked. You might be interested in Encyclopaedia of Men and Women series at hirpit.net All the best and shiny days with love, trust, joy and happiness.Jolanda Edwards
May 09, 2010
Thanks for sharing your views on the topic. It makes one think and look. Where else could anyone get that kind of info in like a perfect way of presentation. Relationships, so easy to handle, so hard to understand 🙂 I like the reading. will come again. I will bookmark your site. And for the visitor with your permission: Talk and help only when you’re asked. You might be interested in Encyclopaedia of Men and Women series at hirpit.net All the best and shiny days with love, trust, joy and happiness. Have a grand day. Jolanda Edwards
Apr 18, 2012
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