On Love and Non-attachment

Posted on May 9, 2010

People often wonder how to reconcile the Buddha’s teachings on non-attachment with those on love. How can we love others without being attached to them? Non-attachment is a balanced state of mind in which we cease overestimating others’ qualities. By having a more accurate view of others, our unrealistic expectations fall away, as does our clinging. This leaves us open to loving others for who they are, instead of for what they do for us. Our hearts can open to care for everyone impartially, wishing everyone to be happy simply because he or she is a living being. The feeling of warmth that was previously reserved for a select few can now be expanded to a great number of people.

–from Taming the Mind by Ven. Thubten Chodron, published by Snow Lion Publications

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2 Responses to “On Love and Non-attachment”

  1. Concha
    May 12, 2010

    We often think people will change. Change to What?…what our image of them should be? People don’t change….either we accept them as they are or we live with what they are and don’t “personalize” who we want them to be… that wil just create bad energey.

  2. ramgiri
    May 12, 2010

    People change all the time – in the way they want to change. But when we are at war with what they are we can only lose.
    “They” can never be the problem.

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